Hi Everyone, I am Katie, and I am a Soul Midwife.
I am a companion to the dying. My role varies in many ways. I am a shoulder to cry on, ear to listen and Soul to hold space. I can make the tea, or I can clear the energy in the room. I can give you a hand massage or I can sit and listen to your soul wounds and help you transition as peacefully and gently as possible. I can support someone from the moment of diagnosis right up to their last breath. Soul midwives cannot fix things, we cannot stop what is happening and we certainly have no control over anybody’s ‘fate’. But we can support and offer loving kindness and compassion when someone needs it most.
Soul Midwives work on many different levels. Our work varies so much because people do. Each person I have worked with has been special and unique. As living beings, we are precious, worthy and individual and this same thinking is applied to our work with the dying as well.
Death and dying is such a unique and personal process. No two deaths are the same, and each situation and circumstance that we have experienced in our lives contributes towards our experience of our death. Every relationship, every holiday, every moment of love, hurt, joy, fear, anger and glory makes us who we are and affects us in a very deep and profound way. Even if we are not aware of it at the time. As humans we may physically see the same sea views in life, we may visit the same towns, we may have the same holidays, we may all have a father, mother, child, friend and colleague but our connections and relationships with those people are so different. It is impossible to compare anyone of us to each other in any way. Who we are, the emotions we feel and why we feel them is so specific and exclusive to each of us. They are so personal, poignant and profound, that they are part of our soul and something we cannot explain or justify. If we can all learn to recognise this, we allow others the space and respect, to feel their own unique experience of their death more freely. And having said all that, we can then understand the magic of being able to document all those moments and the power in the memories they hold. And this why I am so happy to be part of After Cloud.
For those that are facing the end of their lives, please know that whatever you are feeling and going through, is OK. It is OK to be feeling the way you are and thinking the thoughts that you are. It is OK to have a good day and feel happiness and it is OK to have a different day and feel anger. It is OK to struggle and not want to talk. It is OK to say the truth about how you feel, and it is OK to change your mind and feel something different the next day. It is OK to sit in a place of denial. It is OK to waiver between acceptance and hope. It is OK to want to be positive and forget what is happening and it is OK to then want it all to be over. Its OK to document all of this as a way of helping your loved ones understand and be better equipped to support you through it. To write all these things down is actually a very healthy way to do things.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to how we handle our dying journey. There may be healthier ways than others yes but what those are will be different for each of us. Whatever choices you are being asked to make, please listen to your inner wisdom and trust your gut instinct. No one can tell you how to do this. No one else is wearing your shoes right now. No one else is experiencing the things that you are. You will hopefully be supported my friends and/or family and more than likely have medical professionals guiding you as well. But you still have choices, and you are still allowed to do things your way. Go with what feels right for you. And please know that those feelings are allowed to change, whatever the decision, at any time.
And these are just some of the reasons why I am a Soul Midwife. Dying is a process and one that we should not do alone. And one that should be supported in EVERY way.
To everyone reading this, no matter who you are or what you are going through, I send you heartfelt love, peace and strength.